Guides
Plain-language starting points for polyamory, kink, rope, consent and everything in between.
A quick note: these are starting points, not rulebooks. We describe how people in these communities tend to use these words, knowing the language, concepts and understandings shift over time and are never universally agreed on. None of this is the one correct definition, and we are not telling you how to do anything. What you read here is personal and yours might differ. For anything with real-world risk, learn the safety properly from sources you trust and take it slowly.
Consent the foundation
What is consent?
Consent is agreement that is freely given, informed and ongoing. Here is what it really means and why it is the foundation everything else rests on.
Polyamory
What is polyamory?
Polyamory means more than one loving relationship, with everyone's consent. Here is what it actually is, what it is not, and the different shapes it can take.
ENM
What is ethical non-monogamy?
Ethical non-monogamy is the umbrella for any relationship with more than one connection, openly and with consent. Here is what ENM actually covers.
Swinging
What is swinging?
Swinging is partnered people connecting sexually with others, usually together and usually socially. Here is what it means and how the scene works.
Kink
What is kink?
Kink covers sexual interests and play outside the conventional script, built on consent and care. Here is what it means and how the community approaches it.
Shibari
What is shibari?
Shibari, or kinbaku, is the art of Japanese rope bondage. Here is what it means, where it comes from, and how to start learning it safely.
Events
What to expect at events
A lot of this world happens in person, at events. Here is a plain-language guide to what they are, from gentle munches to play parties, and how to start.